JOIN MY SQUAD. When I first saw this shirt it spoke to me. I’m pretty sure it spoke to me in ways that were not intended for this eight dollar t shirt. Besides the fact that graphic tees have been a staple in my wardrobe since my teenage days, I’m very big on having solid, supportive relationships–a strong “squad”, if you will. Social media has definitely put squads on the forefront. The pursuit of the perfect squad has become very important to all of us, and whether it’s meant for real or for show is subject to further investigation. People are either repping their squad or setting their #squadgoals, emulating celebrities and peers for the sake of having others consume it as content. While we all can identify as part of many different squads, this shirt made me think of my main squad. You know what I mean–the inner circle–we all have one.
Switching gears for just a second, I recently had a conversation with an old friend who I had more or less been estranged from for some time. As we worked towards finding common ground, somehow quantity-in terms of friends- became a topic of discussion. It got me to thinking about the way I view friendship and what I get out of the relationships that I hold most important. All I kept thinking was “how many” hasn’t ever been a factor for me. Quality over quantity is what matters most. I know some people are looking to be liked by every person they meet and hoping to be at the top of everyone’s invite list and that’s cool but that’s just not me. I love people. I love getting to know new and interesting people. I love being able to share my story and listen to theirs. All things considered, I’m still never concerned with building up a long roster because the inner circle remains solid and for that I consider my squad game strong. That handful of people who add substance to my life and support me through wins and losses while I do the same for them, that’s the true squad.
New friends are always welcome but a true friendship takes time, it needs to be nurtured and cultivated and you just can’t do that with everyone you meet. Many people are in your life just for a few minutes, a few weeks, maybe a few months and some will be there for far longer. All may impact you in some way and for this you should always remain grateful. I say all this to say that JOIN MY SQUAD for me means that everyone is welcome in my space in whatever way it takes form. If we’re meant for a mere moment, that will certainly reveal itself in time. If we’re meant for a lifetime, I’m excited to take the journey with you. Until next time…Dashing D.
Shirt~sold out (same text)/ Skirt~J. Crew ON SALE!/ Shoes~old (also nice)/Cuff~old (similar)/ Earrings~H&M/Sunnies~old (similar)
Can we talk about these braids for a minute? This is the most carefree hairstyle I’ve had in a while. It makes getting ready in the morning so easy and keeps me effortlessly cute. We all know that maintaining healthy and fresh looking hair is sometimes a struggle. When my hair is out and relaxed, I go through so many different styles just to try to figure out what will keep my hair neat the longest. My hair hates everything about the environment and it refuses to keep a curl. And have you guys ever noticed that whenever you get your hair done, it either rains that day or the next? No matter what I do the elements never want me to be great! Rain, snow, sun, humidity, you name it and my hair gets upset IMMEDIATELY! What I’ve learned is that you just have to keep on trying out styles and products until you find something that works. It also helps that I have an amazing hair stylist, Joel Edwin, who puts up with my moods and constant indecision. (Be sure to check him out at O’ Salon, 212 Rogers Avenue in Brooklyn). He also understands when my hair needs a break from the creamy crack or simply from this humid summer air.
I always want to try fun styles in the summer but I know that unless I add extensions it just won’t last so I like to take this time to make that trek to Harlem so the girls at Aminata Hair Braiding (360 W 125th St) can get me ready for the hot, hazy and humid summers in NY. I opted for box braids because they are super versatile and they last long if you take care of them well. It’s also great workout hair! Lately, I’ve been loving just leaving them down and sweeping them to one side. Something about this look makes me feel like a goddess no matter what I’m wearing. I’m also a fan of the topknot whenever I can get mine to cooperate. I take full advantage of the fact that my hair can be pulled up because this doesn’t happen often. I have to be honest though, I’m getting restless-as I often do with my hair- now I’m thinking I should switch it up. A weave maybe? Although, I’m feeling like that’s too much of a commitment for me. A different braid style? Back to my pixie? Any thoughts? Talk to me!
Dress Amazon (similar)/ Shoes thrifted (similar)/ Sunglasses sold out (similar)/Watch Nixon/Earrings J. Crew/ Rings and Choker H&M/Cuff old (similar)
**Photos taken by Shawn Smith
Happy Summer! I hope your summer is off to an amazing start. I kicked off the summer with my birthday trip to Mexico. I had a blast! Everyone who came out to celebrate with me made it so special. Hopefully you guys caught up with me on social media because I decided to limit my phone use so I could stay immersed in the moment. I love to get caught up in the moment and enjoy an experience for all it has to offer. You really can’t do that if your phone is in your hand the whole time. To that end, I didn’t blog my trip at all.
Anyway, you’ll see a lot more of me as the weeks go by. My plan is to be out every weekend until summer ends. I really don’t want to miss any opportunity to enjoy myself while it’s so beautiful outside.
I started my July 4th weekend traipsing around lower Manhattan. You can always find fun restaurants, an abundance of art and culture and an overall cool vibe when you go downtown. Speaking of fun restaurants, I finally checked out Vandal for brunch. I’d been wanting to try this place for the longest. So glad I went! We tried a bunch of menu items but for me the wild mushroom pizza and the greek salad were the best! The set up is pretty cool too. After entering through a flower shop, you’re greeted by a huge purple bunny. His name is Henry, we got acquainted. I pet him even though you’re not supposed to 🙂
They also have interesting street art allover the restaurant. If you know me, you know I love any kind of street art. When I’m out that’s usually what I’m looking for: graffiti walls, murals, cool installations…you name it, I’m into it. That’s just what I did after filling up my belly at Vandal…along with the obligatory pit stop in SoHo for shopping. Summer sale season is in full effect! If you guys have not checked out the Zara sale yet you need to go. My Bonjour Baby dress was a cool $12.99 and I got so much more stuff that I will be featuring soon. Stay tuned!
How are you guys spending the summer so far? What’s on the agenda? Talk to me!
Dress Zara (sold out online, check stores)/ Heels (old)/ Slip ons H&M/ Earrings (old)/ Bag Tumi